Safety and attachment
The basis for a feeling of safety is laid in youth and is of great importance for the development of the personality. Innate and surrounding factors, as well as the interaction between caretakers and child, are all of influence in the way we tend to perceive ourselves and others, the way we feel about ourselves and the way we interact with others. Our life story can be altered in an adapted way so that childhood experiences of unsafe attachment can be (partially) corrected in adulthood.
Development: a search for who you are intended to be
People have the capability to develop by thinking about themselves, being both aware of thoughts and feelings as well as sharing these with others. These developmental capabilities improve when somebody increasingly feels safer and also experiences this in relations with others. With this in mind, I provide person centered care, in which symptoms, revolving feelings of being unwell in the current situation, get the attention they need. The focus is on facilitating and stimulating development as a way to discover who you are intended to be, what then enables you, now and in the future, to live in harmony.
Connectedness and being yourself
Two important needs in people are:
- To connect with others and to be appreciated by others
- To be yourself and to unfold talents, personal qualities and develop skills
Essential contact ‘matters’ and connects
Illness, loss and stress affect our quality of life and that of our loved ones. However, problems and experiences can become more bearable when we can connect with others, even if what was, can ‘never be’ again. Life can be difficult and not all problems can be solved. However, connecting with others can relieve both the experience of sadness and loss.